Host Inclusive Gatherings this Holiday Season

For just about everyone, regardless of age, gender, or station in life, the holidays tend to elicit a stress response. Big family gatherings, interesting group dynamics, preparing an enormous amount of food, deep cleaning the house, and taking time off of work. It’s a lot! And of course, it’s not all bad. The holiday season is also filled with joy, celebration, and the people we love. But the older we get, the more we appreciate our parents for how much they did during this time of year, which often went unnoticed and under-appreciated. Now that you’re hosting your very own Thanksgiving dinner, Christmas party, or Hanukkah celebration, the task is on you. The metaphorical torch has been passed, as well as the stress along with it.

The reality is, everyone plays a different role during the holiday season. The kids, the parents, the friends, sisters-in-law, grandparents, and everyone in between. Everyone has a unique role in a group dynamic and their own idea of what’s expected. But when we actually look at what’s the most important recipe for success during group gatherings, it’s about getting along, compromise, and acts of kindness. And when each individual is able to be their best self, the group can relax and enjoy the festivities.

So what do consideration and compromise look like during holiday festivities?

It’s different for just about everyone, as consideration comes in many forms. From providing comfort and thoughtful extras to allowing for different diets and allergies to have a seat at the table. For the vegan, the holidays have been historically a stressful experience and a true exercise in preparing one’s own meal, feeling left out, and unconsidered.

After all, the vast majority of Americans still eat meat and other animal byproducts. These traditional holiday meals are often rooted in meat dishes, dairy, and other heavy fats and sugars, making it especially difficult for the token vegan or vegetarian during these larger shared festivities.

This year, we should all work to change that.

If you find yourself hosting the big holiday meal this year, it’s time to start doing your research. Make a list of all of the guests you can expect and then send a group text or an email asking if anyone has any specific or particular food allergies, dietary restrictions, or preferences. After you understand what you’re working with, you can begin to craft a meal that includes all diets without stress or hesitation.